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Great Expectations

Updated: Sep 12

“I do not understand what I do. For what I want to do I do not do, but what I hate I do. I have the desire to do what is good, but I cannot carry it out. For I do not do the good I want to do, but the evil I do not want to do—this I keep on doing.” ~ Romans 7:15-17, 19-20

There are many memes out there that show expectation vs reality especially when trying to recreate a recipe or craft on Pinterest. They are pretty funny because on Pinterest, everything is made to look so easy. So much of life can be compared to this. Especially in this day and age of social media. My aging self remembers growing up without it and still having an incredibly difficult time with finding my place in friendships, in school, with society and especially within myself. I can’t imagine having all my ups, downs, emotions and every argument displayed for everyone to see and comment on. To use against me in the future. When we left high school, we had this ability to break away from who we might have been over the 12 years we spent with the same people. We had the ability to grow up, to separate ourselves from this younger and immature persona that we fell into as we navigated through the formative years.

Those growing up today, adults, and even the older age groups are now recognizing that they will be held responsible at any point in time for any bad behavior, unkind words, relationship, and/or friend woes. While that brings a sense of accountability and allows us to reprimand each action or inaction it has also brought about this intense sense of superiority. While some actions may be worthy of being called out and schooled all it does is confirm whatever bias started this in the first place.

Don’t get me wrong. I absolutely despise any sort of discrimination and anything that harms the mental or physical health of another human being. I do think people should be held accountable for their words, deeds and actions. But there are ways of doing things that may be more successful than others.

In my opinion what I’m noticing is a rabid ego. I speak of ego a lot because I do believe it is the root of all bad things. It’s what initiated the fall with Adam and Eve and has continued to spur disruption since. Social media has allowed people to feed this and allow it to grow in mass proportions. This is within all generations. Suddenly we’re in touch with people we knew in high school and have reverted back to those callow dynamics.

Ego initiated the fall with Adam and Eve and has continued to spur disruption since.

We’re finding that people have long memories. We try to post only the best of us and maybe not accurate images. We try and keep up with the Jones’s. We tout conspiracy theories and share inaccurate information or photo-shopped photos. This is often done without malice and without fully grasping that what we see and believe are not true. Then comes the doubling down.

We’re finding a rapid decline in beliefs of science and medical knowledge. We disregard people whose opinion and expertise we have leaned on heavily and that has offered us the ability to live safer and healthier lives. Once, being from another country was exotic and fascinating. Speaking a second or third language showed depth and intelligence. Anything different is now viewed as threatening and thus splattered over the internet for the world to see.

What are we, as Christians, as humans, as Americans supposed to do? Just as Paul states in Romans we often do what we don’t want to do and sometimes feel driven to it by some magnetic force. But, just as Paul and all of the other writers in the Bible struggled through their demons, their egos and selfishness, their harming of others, etc. we have the ability to turn it around. We have the same responsibilities as Paul to see what we lack, where we feel that magnetic pull the strongest and stop to reflect on why we feel that strongly. Is it God guiding us or is it our earthly human emotion that’s feeling injured and wanting to lash out? For often our actions aren’t due to the other person or persons but rather it hitting a nerve somewhere we find within ourselves that we feel is lacking or stemmed from childhood hurt.

God created us to be renegades. To question. To fight. Just not in the way that we have been. As Josh Wilson sings in his song Revolutionary, “Why does kindness seem revolutionary? When did we let hate get so ordinary? Let's turn it around, flip the script. Judge slow, love quick. God help us get revolutionary”. For in Christ we find a revolution. One that started in the beginning of time and will last until the end. Through revelation we find change. Through change we find Christ.

About: Sosie Matosian resides in Virginia with her husband, three children and two dogs.  She has her degree in Biblical Studies from University of Northwestern with additional emphasis and certificate in the Catechesis of the Good Shepherd.  She is passionate about sharing her faith with others and brings a personal perspective to the struggles one might face in their journey walking to and with Christ.

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